DOUG
WILKEY, NON-HODGKINS LYMPHOMA SURVIVOR
If good health is its own reward, then what might cancer be? Some may
argue that cancer is an intruder that should be attacked, beaten and
forgotten. But Doug Wilkey sees it differently. “There is no way I could
have ever seen how cancer could — and would — help me rediscover the
purpose for my life,“ says Doug. In February 2002, after weeks of severe
stomach pains, a diagnosis of an aggressive lymphoma — non-Hodgkin’s
large b-cell diffuse — set Doug on a path of self-discovery he continues
to travel today.
Once diagnosed, Doug’s chemo began immediately. It yielded a “partial
response,” the cancer stopped growing in one area. It showed up in his
sternum and lungs. A more intensive chemo regimen was required. He
plummeted into depression and isolation. “I trusted no one,” says Doug,
fighting back the tears. “I reached my lowest point when I considered
suicide.”
Doug came across The Wellness Community’s literature. “The words
‘support’ and ‘hope’ jumped out at me. I thought I better call and check
this out.” Doug attended a newcomers orientation. He then began
attending a Tuesday participant group. It became his anchor for 18
months. “It was the first time I met others in various stages of cancer,
including remission. I felt comforted and validated. It felt as if the
clouds had lifted, the fog had cleared and a cancer fighting survivor
was emerging.”
A year after treatment, Doug’s oncologist predicted a “nondurable”
remission and strongly recommended a stem-cell transplant. “My doctor
felt that without the transplant, I would not survive. I was devastated
and unsure of how to proceed. While others insisted on a transplant, my
Tuesday group asked me to think about what I wanted. Paradoxically, it
was this “permission” to make my own choice that led to my undergoing an
autologous stem-cell transplant in February 2004.”

“The irony of it all is that by nearly dying of cancer I am able to
live, really live, my life. I know there are no guarantees. Yet, I feel
no anxiety or fear. No matter what happens, my cancer journey has been,
and will continue to be, its own reward.”
In fall 2009, Doug achieved an important goal and graduated from ASU
in the Master of Arts program in Criminology and Criminal Justice with
his focus on becoming a justice policy analyst.
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